If you seem offended by it, that's as far as we go." —Steve M."Girls should try to avoid pre-judging before a first date.Whether it's someone you're meeting online or it's someone your friends know, aim to drop the things you know about them and start fresh. PS: Can you tell me more about your first date rule? Do you feel like there are any differences between dating in your 20s vs. WA: There's something really, really nice about dating mature women. WA: First date for dinner and a movie is no good because you'll go to the movie and you don't talk to the person. I have a rule that I don't kiss on the first date, so I like it on the second date because then you do the thing where you, like, grab their hand in the movie and you can let the sexual tension build up, and then when the movie's over you, you know, push them up against the wall and kiss them.Sometimes horror stories about them can make for fun discussion, but don't ever bring your ex into the conversation if it's not called for.When I hear about a girl's man, I'm assuming we probably shouldn't be on that date period.That was like a dagger in my heart, because you can tell someone's mood by their music, you know? That reminds me of AIM away messages because everyone would write what song they were listening to and that's exactly what you were trying to do. It's also interesting because the second you fall for someone else or you've got this other thing going on in your life, then you're like, "I don't care about my ex anymore," and you can follow them back. We can relate to each another and we're both romantics at heart.Once you are totally cool and you know it's going to bug them to death that you're so happy, then you can follow them back. We've been doing events together and we'll have a couple tequilas and get into it. WA: [Laughs] It's a lot of us lamenting and consoling the other.
Half the fun of going out is getting to know someone new, so allow yourself to let that happen organically." —Oliver B."Please don't compare us to your exes—out loud or even in your head.There are different reasons that a guy might not pick up the tab (some that might not have anything to do with you), but if you're into him, avoid looking too disappointed.You don't want him to think you expected it." —Josh F."The food you choose on dates says volumes about your character.Along with plenty of drinks, Wells Adams served up some pretty damn good advice on the latest season of Bachelor in Paradise. I was probably a horrible person to date in my 20s. Being with more mature women, it's nice — especially if they've got their stuff together.Following previous appearances on The Bachelorette and BIP season three, Wells returned to Mexico this Summer to replace Jorge as the bartender. Once everyone's gotten their stuff together, then it's like, OK, we've got that, now we've got us. PS: So what do you do if your pet — like, say, Carl the Bloodhound — doesn't like the person you're dating? When things are going well in a relationship, how do you know it's a good time to introduce the family? He would be nice to anybody that I brought around because he just wants the best for me, so usually I can break someone in with the family with him. It can't be the same move over and over again because then it gets really stale. If you're stuck in the friend zone, do you feel like there's a way out?