Dating a divorced older man with children
I was the 28 yr old women so in love that I had blinded myself to these red flags and he didn't have to have an excuse for anything because I made them for him. Now, I'm not a stalker or a person who "checks up" on their man. I got lies after lies when questioned about it the next day. All these shady things he did before, now I know why. The house was so dilapidated (in my price range) and b/c my boyfriend is a master contractor, he's basically getting free room and board for his labour on the place.
Working overtime alot - he has a lot of child support to pay. But ladies, when you have that gut that something isn't right, normally you're right. "Oh I was with my brother the whole time, we walked out together." when asked who the woman was (incase it's just an old friend he ran into - hence, still making excuses) he flipped out, got extremely defensive. Tried to make me feel guilty for being there and he left me. My point is for all of you that are in this boat, please take a step back and look at your relationship with this man without the blinders on. If your divorced man with kids doesn't want you in his entire life, then you're better than that. His child support payments are so high he could never afford to live on his own.
When dating someone with children, even grown ones, face the fact that he has parental commitments, which may sometimes interfere with your plans and his availability.
With the higher likelihood that he has children to support and spend time with or a time-consuming job, his other obligations give you time for yourself.No children visits - he's just not ready for that step, not sure how to intermingle his new g/f with his kids. You deserve someone who wants you included in everything he does. Don't let him use you up until you have nothing left to give. So basically I"m stuck with him and this unfinished house until it can become ready for sale and then we can go our separate ways (hopefully) I cannot afford to take a bath on this house!! If you see a guy with kids RUN as fast as you can in the opposite direction. i see u spent alot of your time wanting to meet his kids,which is something that i wouldnt have done.cause he have to take things slow when it comes to that.u cant rush that.i know cause i have to kids which r girls and im also going through a for me thats a scary alot of crazy ppl out there and u have to be u didnt make things even better for urself by showing up at the bar.Not invited to family get togethers - still just not ready for this step, kids will be there. Not saying all divorced men with kids are like this.... I'm 22 and just broke up with a 23 year old divorced dad of 5 year old.I feel bad reading this im 23 my guy is 32 he had 3 children when i met him now he has 4 the last one being our beautiful daughter, as much as i love her i just feel like im trapped now like everything is a lie, I've met one of his children but the older two 12 and 11 boy and girl....Im sure its because of their mother but then again I'm not sure, my daughter still hadn't met any of them and i barely see my guy if i can even call him that i see him like twice a week but mostly once a week and not very long, it just hurts Yes. This divorcee of 3 children thought he was going to use me.